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A dear friend of mine is 44, is 5 1/2 foot tall and has just reached and passed the 175 lb of weight. She has recently lost an important person in her life, someone who was a guide for her. She is aware that her food binging is the result of this sense of solitude but she thinks there is not much she can do. At least until she decided to look for professional help.
Probably now it is too soon to see results, but I like to believe that her recovery (both as peace of mind and rapid weight loss diet) has started. She is happy with the professional she turned to, she is learning a lot of things about herself.
These are the three best advices she received, and that are starting to sink into her. I think that, even if your situation is not as bad as my friend’s, they remain three great weight loss tips.

Do not judge yourself
We do not need any “guide” in our life to lose weight, nor a “shield” to protect us. The more we are surrounded by people telling us how we should be, the worse we feel. The confidence given by an emergency exit from our problems can become a cage we trap ourselves into. One of the many things we can do when we feel trapped is sit and eat. No rapid weight loss can come out of this situation, we need to fell free to make the right (or wrong) decisions for ourselves. Do not judge yourself means to treat your excess of weight for what it is and say to yourself: “Alright, I am not losing weight, in fact I am gaining more and more weight everyday. This is an alarm bell, my inner self has a need, is looking for something, and I know that food is just a bad surrogate,” period. No judgment. The lack of success in our fast weight loss diet is not a direct consequence of the state of your life, it comes from somewhere else. As this is not a psychology paper, we can call this place the Soul, that apparently wants to be filled by food, but it is actually looking for something else. Focus on your needs: this is what the psychotherapist told my friend. Each and every morning, instead of crying in front of the mirror, telling yourself “I will never be able to lose weight again”, ask yourself “what do I really want, what are my real needs?”. If you have an answer, great, if not, again, do not judge yourself. Try again the next day. If you are consistent enough, the real voice will come out in the end and you will find that what you really want has nothing, absolutely nothing to do with food. Once you learn to listen to that voice, your path to a rapid weight loss will start.

Try to be a stranger from time to time
When she talks about her problems with life and weight loss, one thing my friend loves to say is: “yet, I know I love myself at least a little bit, I am always struggling to take more time for myself”. Of course we need to love ourselves and dedicate some time to us, but that is not really the point. What matters is to have a different mental approach towards ourselves. “Be a stranger to your life from time to time” This phrase told by psychotherapist, sounded quite obscure to my friend (and to me too) at the beginning, but now she is gradually getting the meaning of it. What my friend is now trying to do, instead of crying over her lost shape and her gone weight loss plans, is try and feel like a stranger to her problems. I have to confess I am also giving it a try and it is a liberating sensation indeed. For five minutes everyday, when the time seems appropriate, try to see family, food, work, weight loss problems as if they were not yours, but someone else’s. This helps take focus off all the issues and catch the breath for a minute. Again, the aim here is to fight the judgmental attitude we have towards ourselves.

The last advice my friend was given was: don’t fight your feelings.
If you feel you’re out of place, or you’ve lost all your confidence, feel free to think it. Don’t fight it by saying: “I’ll change my life” or “why am I not losing weight? After all everything’s fine in my life”, or “I’m not losing weight, so what? There are much worse things in life, people dying etcetera.” My friend is finding the courage to make room for its sense of inadequacy. She’s starting to say to her “yes, I feel inadequate and out of place”. She says it works, that this gives her a sense of liberation from self-judgment and she feels that the will to lose weight is coming back again.
That’s the real voice, that’s the start of a natural quick weight loss and a complete recovery of her life.